Understanding and Managing Easy Attachment: From Origins to Coping Strategies

by Anne B. Robinson

Hey there! I see you’ve got questions about why you’re finding yourself getting attached so quickly. Trust me, I’ve been there too.

It can feel like you’re riding an emotional rollercoaster—thrilling one moment and terrifying the next. It’s a journey that’s often confusing, and understanding what’s happening can help you navigate it better.

Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Origins

Now, the first thing to understand is that the way we attach to others has a lot to do with our attachment styles, which usually form in early childhood and continue into adulthood.

  1. Secure Attachment Style: If you’re securely attached, you’re comfortable with intimacy and trust. This style is often rooted in a nurturing and reliable caregiving environment during early life.
  2. Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style: If you fall into this category, you might find yourself needing constant reassurance and fearing abandonment. This style often develops when caregivers are inconsistent in their attention and support.
  3. Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style: Here, you may dismiss close relationships and prize your independence. This style might originate from a childhood where emotional needs were neglected or dismissed.
  4. Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style: If you have this style, you may desire close relationships but fear getting hurt. This style often stems from traumatic experiences or volatile caregiver relationships in childhood.

Now, if you’re getting attached easily, you may be leaning towards an anxious-preoccupied attachment style. It’s essential to understand that these patterns are not set in stone, and becoming aware of your style is the first step towards change.

Why Do Some People Get Attached So Easily?

Attachment is an integral part of human nature, but if you’re someone who gets attached easily, there might be several reasons at play:

  1. Fear of Abandonment: If you’ve experienced abandonment or inconsistency in care during your formative years, you might become easily attached to prevent that feeling of being left alone again.
  2. Low Self-Esteem: When you’re struggling with self-worth, you might become overly reliant on others for validation, causing you to get attached quickly.
  3. Past Traumas: Traumatic experiences can leave you craving security and closeness, making you susceptible to easy attachment.
  4. Love Bombing: If someone showers you with affection and attention right from the start, it’s natural to get swept off your feet and develop strong feelings quickly.

Coping Strategies for Overcoming Easy Attachment

Understanding why you get attached so easily is only half the battle. Now let’s talk about what you can do to manage it.

  1. Practice Mindfulness: By becoming more aware of your feelings and reactions, you can prevent yourself from acting impulsively and slow down the attachment process.
  2. Seek Therapy: A mental health professional can help you delve deeper into your attachment patterns and provide personalized coping strategies.
  3. Boost Your Self-Esteem: Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself. This can reduce your reliance on others for validation.
  4. Set Healthy Boundaries: Make sure to set and respect personal boundaries in your relationships. This can help ensure that your connections develop at a healthy pace.
  5. Build a Strong Support System: Having a diverse range of supportive relationships can help you avoid becoming overly reliant on one person.


Getting attached easily is not a flaw, but a part of who you are. By understanding your attachment style and its origins, you can better navigate your emotional world.

And remember, it’s okay to seek help and lean on supportive people in your life. After all, we’re all just trying to figure this out, one step at a time.


This article provides an in-depth understanding of why some people get attached easily, its psychological basis, and coping strategies.

It is intended for educational purposes and is not a replacement for professional mental health advice. Always seek the help of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your psychological wellbeing.

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